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Emotional Residue

Whoa! It's been awhile but I'm back. This installment is about emotional residue. This is on my mind because I'm noticing more and more how people appear, disappear and reappear at various stages of your life. New people come into your life, others leave and it all seems to ebb and flow like the ocean. I feel like I'm waiting for a tsunami! But anyway... when the waves come in they wash up all kinds of "stuff." Some remains and some is pulled back into the ocean.  This isn't an entirely negative process because the ocean could deposit on the sand the loveliest sea shell you've ever seen.

Hey…think about it. People are like that. They come into your life and can leave emotional residue on the sands of your life. Sometimes it’s a thin film and other times it’s big – like a whale (sticking to the “ocean theme”). If you realize it’s there, you may be able to remove it. If you don’t realize, it builds and you add your own to it. Next thing you know, you’re overwhelmed with emotional residue and… you’ve got “issues.” I like to live a relatively drama free life, which cuts down considerably on the amount of emotional residue that I have. But every once in a while, a particular tide will come in and leave some nasty piece of garbage on the shores of my soul. How’s that for eloquence? Wow. I had to laugh out loud right then. I think I need to take a moment.

Okay…what I am essentially saying is when your soul gets cluttered with listless emotions, false hopes and past hurts, you have to cleanse. What facilitates the cleaning process is different for everyone.

Whaddaya Do?

  1. Realize other people’s issues are not your own.
  2. Disengage from the person that’s causing you to feel like you have unresolved emotions.
  3. Personally: dance until I pass out. I don’t know too many African dance steps but I pretend I do. It makes me dizzy but I like it.
  4. Continue in my diva ways and continue frequent residue checks.
  5. Cleanse as needed.
Originally Written: May 24, 1999


Hi. I'm Valerie. Glad you're here – come on in and sit a spell. I've never put so much of my writing online but I share my personal experiences in hopes that I help someone in some way. I hope you find something you read thought-provoking, amusing or encouraging. Reach out or comment if you like. Please forgive the typos, grammar and cussing. Thanks for stopping by.

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