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I am not ashamed to say that I didn't know Jesus growing up. What's most important to me is that I've found Him now. When my mother was young, religion was forced on her. She said she wanted us (her children) to be free to choose. I'm not mad.

God has been good to me. I’ve been through some things I never thought I’d survive but I’m still here – maybe a little battered but triumphant nonetheless. I was fortunate enough to meet two very spiritual sisters in 1995 (my Buffalo, NY years) – oddly enough, they were both named Kathy! Kathy Sr. is one of the realest people I know. She is a true heroine. Kathy Jr. has an amazingly gentle but powerful spirit. I love you Kathys!!

It was she who explained “anointed” to me. She told me that God anoints people: blesses them with certain gifts and sets them aside for a specific purpose. I’ve thought about this quite a bit. I often tell people I have found my gift in creative expression and I thought that only pertained to graphics and design. However, I can’t tell you how many comments and encouragement I’ve received from people regarding my writing. When I started writing about my life and experiences, I didn’t realize the impact it would make on some. And it is now that I write this piece that I fully understand that I’ve scratched the surface of yet another gift. Who knew? When you discover you have a gift, it does set you apart whether you like it or not. I won’t say it sets you above because everyone has gifts but this can be a struggle if you have a desire to be “average.” Ironically, it’s like addiction, admitting you have it is the first step. To my detriment, I have found I have often hidden my gifts… for acceptance. What’s funny is that I know others – like me – who do the same thing. I told someone recently that I was glad to be intelligent and they said if I was dumb, I wouldn’t know. I know people who are so smart, you can almost see them processing information. I’m surprised smoke doesn’t come out of their ears.

I can’t recall where I read it but it was something like, “I will not be less so that others may be more.” I suppose my fear is that I will outshine those I love and it will somehow shadow them. But if I understand anything about the way God operates, that doesn’t make any sense. If we are standing side by side – our light reflects and combines with that of others. Even when one of us doesn’t shine so brightly, we are all in the light. I may be anointed but so is everyone I come in contact with. We all fit together and I believe we were divinely designed to complement each other. No one can be all things. It is truly a blessing to be anointed, to know that you are here to illuminate God. †

“I gotta be meeeeee, I gotta be meeee!”

Originally Written: August 7, 2002


Hi. I'm Valerie. Glad you're here – come on in and sit a spell. I've never put so much of my writing online but I share my personal experiences in hopes that I help someone in some way. I hope you find something you read thought-provoking, amusing or encouraging. Reach out or comment if you like. Please forgive the typos, grammar and cussing. Thanks for stopping by.

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